Introducing Lucy....

She has issues, but that's ok, don't we all.

We all have our own way of dealing with our issues,
 we just have to hope they don't impinge on our friends sensibilities too much,
 and we can all find a way foward with grace and forgiveness.
It's just another testiment to the fallen nature of the world.

A Bit More Rozie

Sometimes,  its more important to let people believe that you agree...
 that what they are' banging' on about is really important.
 The only problem with that is, you mostly know your right.
 And it will probably end in tears,
 and there's no way known,
 that those involved want to hear any advice from you dear reader.


Hence Rozies strategy of let them hear what they are saying,
 and avoid a direct challenge,
prefering the option of waiting for an opportune moment to insert that crutial opinion.


Still no guarentee that the subject will spontaneously self correct.
Never mind, welcome to life.

Rozies' ideas about making decisions...

                           
                     She did like to mix it up a bit, there's nothing like variety,
                         and really, lets face it sometimes wise people make
                                                 appalling decisions.

Just how I'm feeling....

This isn't usually about photography,
but sometines you find that a picture tells the story...
and today this is my story.

Somewhere between happy and sad,
  just waiting for the next thing to happen,
I'm a bit too tired to be full of opinions.

The Imaginary " Naughty corner" for badly behaved bloggers...

I love that scene in the Blues Brothers' movie when "The Penguin" (Mother Superior),
has a go at the boys and says something along the lines of,
" Get out of here,  you, with your filthy mouths and bad attitudes,
come back when you have reedeemed yourselves".

Sometimes not paying attention to bad behaviour is the best option,

(think, small children and tantrums,

 they soon wear themselves out,

 and you can have a talk about what's just happened,

 or what's really wrong)

 and sometimes it's consequences, that are the best option.

You dear reader will have to decide if your dealing with a child or an adult, 

sometimes it's not a clear distinction.

How To Deal With Frustration....

Or, how Rozie deals with frustration.

Sometimes there are misunderstandings, and disappointments,

and there's no easy way to deal with all that.

Of course we can''t retaliate with physical violence, 

but sometimes just imagining a bit of "wet fish"treatment,

 goes a long way in getting the tension out.

Sometimes it's hard to connect and sometimes it's hard to let go...

A bit more Rozie and Roger, The story continues.

(not bitter just disappointed)

She really just wanted to find a way to coax him into a friendly dialogue,
a bit of bloggish give and take.
However that would prove difficult and illusive
and truth be known, Roger wasn't to be trifled with.

He (apparently was still on a mission) and had serious people to contend with,
nevermind all this talk of "the story taking centre stage"
 And some of the posts being, well dry, and practically crispy,
he didn't want a reminder about the ability of the image to tell the story.
He was determined to get on...nevermind the distractions,
and just in case they got distracting just delete the distractions.

Just have to get things posted more often,

 Any resemblance to any persons living or dead, depicted in any form on these pages is purley co incidental, and or the product of an over enthusiastic imagination.

But we wouldn't have it any other way...right!

Welcome to a "Guest Spot"....

A little something from the visual diary.

Thanks to "Kunz Wah"....for the reflection

Just an observation...

THEN IT DAWNED ON ME...IT'S ALL ABOUT CONTROL

When you first see it, you can't believe it.

You may have certain doubts and questions, and usually you think something like..."it must be me, or, I must have misunderstood, or maybe I'm too judgemental."

Then as time goes by, and things continue...you see the same tricks over and over.

Subtle undermining comments and actions, veiled threats, often accompanied by some sort of false flattery,borderline bullying...a certain drawing of the lines of division "your obviously not going to cooperate with everyone else, etc."

Perhaps lectures or talks or reminders of how you should be conducting yourself...being more forgiving, not gossiping, more submissive or more of a team player (team player, meaning doing what your told, not asking questions)

You may withdraw, you may observe, you may draw conclusions.....however you'll be waiting forever to see things spontaneously self correct, or change.

A REFLECTION ON BLOGGING

Web Log = Blog.

Its as much as anything a social phenomena.
By it's nature it's your stuff (as a blogger)..
Your perspective, your comment, your information, your corner of the world,
in fact to a point, your diary.

The" Web" part of it is about connection, it's about 'putting it out there'...in cyberspace.
It's wishing for someone to notice, agree, disagree, feel moved, or encouraged or whatever.
Ultimately, it's about interaction and chain reaction,
otherwise you may as well write your stuff in a lovely little book.

Sometimes discovering people and info etc on a blog, is like an adventure
it's new unfarmiliar waters.
You relate it all to yourself, and your circumstances....you read your own stuff into it,
and you sometimes develop a feeling of familiarity to the blogger,
that is well perhaps unrealistic...but hey that's just what happens.

Little favourite blogs become part of the daily routine...'coffee and blog' for breakfast.

So dear blogger, don't be surprised that every so often there's a bit of a spill over.
Don't be surprised if you get a variety of responses. People are different, they're all at different stages, they have different needs, and even agendas.
It's a bit like celebrity, if you put it out there you may have to 'wear' a bit of flack.
You've jumped out of the goldfish bowl, into the big river...it's not all going to be under your control.

So, when you'r a bit grumpy, or have a cold or flu or otherwise feel miserable.
Go to bed with a good book, a cup of lemon tea and some sort of medication....steer well clear of negative comments on your blog, or telling interesting but complicated and not really helpful stories about other people or situations you have found difficult.You'll probably regret it later...

This advice dear reader can, and should be applied to the social phenomena... Face book.

Moving on....

Sometimes it's hard to move on,
and sometimes it looks a bit like this.....

The Story Of Roger And Rozie....

This is where 'Tension' really started for me, it gave me a place to play with imaginary and real situations, finding the humour and the truth.
 It gave me some space to have a bit of a think along the way, it became a bit of an outlet for some of my frustration and helped me to move on from a difficult and sad situation.




"HUMOUR IS THE ONLY TEST OF GRAVITY,
AND GRAVITY OF HUMOUR.

FOR A SUSPECT THAT WILL NOT BEAR RAILLERY,
IS SUSPICIOUS,
AND A JEST THAT WILL NOT BEAR SERIOUS EXAMINATION,
IS FALSE WIT."              Aristotle.



In life there's always room for a bit of imagination,
and this dear readers is where I had the opportunity to use mine...

 Life is full of surprises, and we can never be sure of what's around the corner...

in the mean time (before the really big adventure arrives,

that hasn't quite got there, but you kind of know is on it's way).

One has to get on with the job of being ones' self.

And that dear reader is in some ways the biggest adventure  of all.

Well that's the end of the story...

Rosie was grateful , as the story says. She was grateful for lots of things like, friends and family and photos and food. Among other things. She'd found that being a bit braver and trying new things was a bit scary at times, bet it helped her to move on and get to, and through, the new challenges in her life.

She sometimes thought about Roger, mostly about his advice, and his quirky ways.

She had learned a lot, particularly about Patristics (which she previously couldn't even spell), and also manuscripts and at odd times she had a bit of a dabble in the classics.

Roger, as time went on, was a bit more fun, in a quiet sort of way.

He remained tentative about revelations surrounding his identity, that would never  change.He commissioned many translations and put them in the public domain.

He was always busy, and that's the way he liked it.

However his decision to be kinder to himself meant that he  organised and went on a fabulous holiday every year....or at least to the beach for ice cream, and a lie down in the sunshine just gazing up at the sky.

Roger and Rosie both had plenty to go on with,

which is just what they did.